佚名/Anonymous
Gilliansays,“ThreemonthsagoIstartedworkingasanofficemanagerforaPRcompanyandmyconfdencehasjustdisappeared.I'vealwayswantedtomoveupthecareerladder—butnowI'monthenextstep, IworryIcan'', butnowmynervousnessisholdingmeback, , IfeltIwasn''salottolearnbuteverynightsince, , , logically, Iknowthey'rebusyandI'''sstrangeasI'mconfdentinotherareasofmylife.I'minasteadyrelationshipandIhaveabusysociallife.”
,“Firstly, 'tforcedtopushthemselvesintheircurrentpositionwouldn'teventakeanewjob—they'dhavestayedwhereitwassafe—soshe', Gillianseemstohaveadeepbeliefthatgoessomethinglike，‘I'museless, worthless, andanysecondthey'llfndout!’Eventhoughherbrainknowsthisisnottrue, asisthecasewithmanypeople, she', trywritingdownalistofeverythingyou', peoplearoundyoudon'tcommentonthegoodthingsyoudo, , , askforfeedbacksoyoucanhearhowyou'rereallycomingacross, , findamentoratworkwhoyoucanconfideinandleanonforsupport, andwho', thenexttimeyoustartbeatingyourselfupoverfailures, trythis：stopandtakenoticeofthefearbuildingwithinyou, acceptit, , ifyoufndyourselfafraidtoaskyourbosshowthereportyoudidwas, takenoticeofthefear, thentellyourfear‘Thanksfortheinput’，'llfindyourselfmoreinchargeofyouractionsandfeelings, andyourconfdencewillgrow.”
