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Specifyingthecauseofdeathintheobituarywillhelpallaythe “Whathappened?” , suchascancerorHIV, orsuicide, prepareanhonestanswertothe “Whathappened?” question, butdon’.
Intheeventsomeoneattendscallinghoursthatyouparticularlydonotlike, , .
Youwilllikelyseepeopleyouhavenotseeninyears! Aswithanygathering, , , invitethemtovisityouafterthefuneral, .
■PostFuneralLuncheon
’satimetobealittlemorelightheartedthanisexpectedatthewakeorfuneralandsharealaughasyoureminisceaboutthedeceased.
■Thank-youNotes
Anyonewhopresentedorsentagiftorcardtothefamily, , broughtfoodtothehouseofthegrievingfamily, sentflowers, -youcard.
, thank-younotesincludedapersonalletterfromthegrievingfamily, buttodayasimplethank-youcardwithasignature, -writtenthank-you, butthatisapersonalchoice.
◇ThankingClergy: , -younote.
◇Pallbearers: .
◇Flowers: Forindividuals, , , , -writtenmessageofthanks.
◇FriendsWhoHaveHelpedOut: Friendswhohavevolunteeredtheirhelpinanyway—suchasdrivingacarinthefuneralprocession, helpingthefamilywitharrangementsorfood, , , , useyourownjudgmenttodetermineifawrittennoteisnecessary.
