佚名/Anonymous
It'stheclassicstorywithatwist, atravelingsalesmangetsaflattireonadark, , hismindchurns:"Supposenoonecomestothedoor." "Supposetheydon'thaveajack." "Supposetheguywon'tlendmehisjackevenifhehasone." Theharderhismindworks, themoreagitatedhebecomes, andwhenthedooropens, hepunchesthefarmerandsaidyells, "Keepyourlousyjack!"
Thatstorybringsasmile, :"NothingevergoesthewayIplanned." "I'llnevermakethatdeadline." "Ialwaysscrewup."
, youtravelthroughlifewithyourthoughtsspellgloomanddoom, that'swhereyou'reheaded, becauseput-downwordssabotageconfidenceinsteadofofferingsupportandencouragement.
Simplyput, tofeelbetter, 'show:
, "Iknowyoucan'thelpme, Doctor.I', andI'msureI', whytransferme?"
Then, gradually, Sue''tsoundlikefailure.
Attheendoftheirfirstmeeting, Sue'stherapisttoldhertojotdownherthoughts, , Sue'slistincluded:"I'." "Tomorrowwillbeadisaster." "I'veneverchairedameetingbefore." "?"
Sheadmitted, "Inonedayalone, 'malwaystiredanddepressed."
'vebeenfeelingdown, itcouldbeyou', ifthatwillhelpcapturethem.
'sinnervoicekepttellinghershewas "onlyasecretary".Mark'sremindedhimhewas "justasalesman".Withtheword "only", or "just", theyweredowngradingtheirjobsand, byextension, themselves.
Byisolatingnegativewordsandphrases, youcanpinpointthedamageyou', , there'snothingdestructiveaboutsaying" Iamasalesman" or" Iamasecretary".Bothstatementsopendoorstopositivefollowups, suchas, "I'monmywayuptheladder."
-circuitnegativemessagesassoonastheystartbyusingtheone-wordcommandstop! "WhatwillIdoif..." stop!
