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, (usuallyparentsandothersignificantadults) wantarestrong, capableandself-confidentpeople, '-acceptance.
MoralisticSelf-Judgment
"bad" "hateful" and "mean"., begintoaskquestionslike:"DidIdowhatIreallywantedtodointhissituation?" "HowcanIcorrectthemisunderstandingthatoccurred?" Inotherwords, youcanstarttoviewwhatyou'-productive, youcanfocusonwhatyouhavelearnedfromitandtryanotherapproachthatmightbemoreproductive.
Over-Generalizing
Anotherthingthatmightcauseyounottoacceptyourselfisover-generalizingaboutsomethingyou'vedonethatyoudon', forexample, ifyoufailatestyoumightgeneralizeandsay, "I'mreallyastupidperson." , youmightdecidethatyourgradeonthistestinthissubjectatthistimewasindeedpoor, andthengoontodecidewhatyouwanttodoaboutyourpoorgrade, -generalizingdiscouragesyoufromtakingstepsthatmightallowyoutodobetteronthenextexamandbuildsanexpectationoffuturefailure.
ImpossiblyHighStandards
, thattheyaren'talwayskind, thatthey'vedonethingstheyaren'tproudof, , asoberandoftenworriedcharacterfromapopularcomicstrip, "Theworld'sheaviestburdenisagreatpotential." Wouldn'titbeoverwhelmingifwealwayshadtodowhatweimaginewecoulddo? (whicharen'talwaysideal, bytheway).
NotAcceptingthatThereAreRealLimitstoYourAbilities
, —healthconcerns, financialproblems, familydifficulties, extraneousstressors, -acceptanceistoseethatthegoalisunattainable, atleastfornow, .
TheComparisonTrap
