戴尔·卡耐基/DaleCarnegie
—weighingenvelopes, handingoutstamps, makingchange, issuingreceipts—thesamemonotonousgrindyearafteryear.
SoIsaidtomyself: “, tomakehimlikeme, Imustsaysomethingnice, notaboutmyself, butabouthim.”SoIaskedmyself, “WhatisthereabouthimthatIcanhonestlyadmire?”
Thatissometimesahardquestiontoanswer, especiallywithstrangers; but, inthiscase, .
Sowhilehewasweighingmyenvelope, Iremarkedwithenthusiasm: “IcertainlywishIhadyourheadofhair.”
Helookedup, half-startled, hisfacebeamingwithsmiles.
“Well, itisn'tasgoodasitusedtobe,”hesaidmodestly.
Iassuredhimthatalthoughitmighthavelostsomeofitspristineglory,: “Manypeoplehaveadmiredmyhair.”
I'llbetthatpersonwentouttolunchthatdaywalkingonair.I'llbethewenthomethatnightandtoldhiswifeaboutit.I'llbethelookedinthemirrorandsaid: “Itisabeautifulheadofhair.”
Itoldthisstoryonceinpublicandamanaskedmeafterwards: “Whatdidyouwanttogetoutofhim?”
WhatwasItryingtogetoutofhim!!!WhatwasItryingtogetoutofhim!!!Ifwearesocontemptiblyselfishthatwecan'tradiatealittlehappinessandpassonabitofhonestappreciationwithouttryingtogetsomethingoutoftheotherpersoninreturn—ifoursoulsarenobiggerthansourcrabapples, weshallmeetwiththefailurewesorichlydeserve.
Ohyes, .
, , thatlaw, ifobeyed, , weshallgetintoendlesstrouble.
Thelawisthis: , aswehavealreadynoted, saidthatthedesiretobeimportantisthedeepesturgeinhumannature; andWilliamJamessaid：“Thedeepestprincipleinhumannatureisthecravingtobeappreciated.”AsIhavealreadypointedout, .
